3 Tips for Getting Out of a Creative Funk

I’m not sure if it’s the fact that I can’t remember the last time I left my house or what but the last few weeks I have been struggling with deciding what content to put out on both my blog and my Instagram. My podcast has been a tad bit easier just because I usually do interviews and for my solo episodes, I always have something that’s easier to talk about than to write about for a blog or put in an Instagram caption. Whatever the case may be, I have definitely been going through my own version of writer’s block…taken a step further and an overall creatives block. As I mentioned on the most recent episode of my podcast (listen here), I started Mattie James’ #ConsistencyChallenge for my Instagram feed. Long story short the challenge consists of posting a picture on your Instagram feed every day, preferably ones that represent your brand and such. I have actually enjoyed it and will probably write more about it at some point in the future. However, after a few perfectly planned pictures and captions, I started to draw a blank. That carried over into my blog and finals season being in full effect didn’t help me. This led to me not having much to blog about and having to figure that out and how the hell I was going to post for the rest of the month. I would like to say I somewhat figured it out and decided that I should share this process with all of you.

Do a Brain Dump

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The first thing I do when I’m not sure what I want to create is to have a brain dump session. A brain dump session consists of me getting a blank piece of paper, setting a timer (usually for 5 mins or so), and just dumping all of my thought onto the page. The fact that I already know what the purpose for the brain dump is probably helps my mind focus on thinking about content, my assignment, or whatever it is I’m trying to garner creativity from. I feel that 5 mins in the perfect amount of time to force yourself to just get everything out and then figure out what to do with it later. After I brain dump, I sift through the words on the page and see if anything sounds like something I can expand on and usually I have at least 1 or 2 good ideas to run with.

Research What Other People in Your Niche are Creating

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I’m not saying that it’s entirely impossible to create never before thought of content or posts or whatever it is you need to create but let’s be real, many things have been talked about before and THAT IS OKAY. As a lifestyle blogger the topics aren’t necessarily what make me unique. What makes me unique is my perspective and experience with a topic. When I’m particularly stumped on what to create or write, I google “lifestyle blog ideas” or whatever topic I’m interested in writing about, whether that be “fitness blog posts”, “law school blog posts”, you get the idea. It’s okay to get inspo from other content creators. If the topic is entirely too specific, be sure to give that person credit and link back to their blog. The same goes for Instagram content as well. Creatives deserve credit, which I’ve made my thoughts on such known on my podcast as well (listen here).

Ask Your Audience What They Want to See

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Don’t get me wrong, this may not be the best approach depending on your audience and/or your relationship with them but it doesn’t hurt to try. I remember when I was not entirely new to blogging but also still figuring it out I used to come up with ideas and conduct polls on my Instagram stories to see what kind of content my audience wanted to see. After all, they are going to be the ones reading and/or engaging with it. You might as well see if they have any suggestions for topics they’d like your opinion or help with. Definitely don’t do this one too often or your audience will wonder why the hell are you a content creator if you can’t think of any content. I would say this is good to do once every few months or so. When done properly, it can be extremely help. The reason I even thought to write this blog was due to a suggestion from one of my mutuals on twitter. Thanks Della girl!

These are some of the ways that I deal when I can’t for the life of me think of what kind of content I want to create. Usually if I do one or all of these 3 things, I can get out of my creative funk and figure out what it is I want to write about or create. Hopefully these tips can help you if you are having a similar block.

Did I forget a suggestion that has helped you? How do you deal with writer’s block or get out of creative funk? Let me know in the comments below!

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Reflecting On My 2L Year

Hey readers! I know it’s been a little while since you’ve heard (read?) from me but I can explain…it was finals season! There are few things in my life that are as stressful as law school finals season. Mix in everything else going on in the world and it’s just a bit much. I actually took a break from both my blog and my podcast (listen here) to focus on my studies. I’m not sure if it actually made a difference but we switched to Pass/Fail back in March so hopefully I passed all my classes. Aside from that, one of my biggest regrets from 1L year was that I didn’t write a reflection post so I decided to do one this year.

What was 2L Like?

This year was by-far my busiest year in law school (so far). My 1L year was more centered around getting used to the law school experience from reading all of those cases and trying to understand legalese to using proper terminology in your cold call responses and whatever else. It’s a whole new way of learning that undergrad (no matter what your major was) can’t prepare you for. My 2L year was very different.

There’s an age old saying that says “1L they scare you to death, 2L they scare you to death, and 3L they bore you to death.” (feel like the last part isn’t true but okay) 2L year they definitely work you to death. People told me that 2L things would get easier and although the class part definitely did, everything else did not! Your 2L year in when you actually branch out, get involved in more clubs, and serve as a junior staffer on journal/law review if you choose to do write-on the summer before. It all can get pretty crazy.

First Semester

My plate was not as full as it could have been this past year. I didn’t work, aside from teaching MixxedFit at a gym from October-December) so I luckily didn’t have that to balance. The two main commitments I had in my 2L year was serving as the Vice President of Programming for my chapter of Black Law Students Association (BLSA) and as a junior staffer on Gaming Law Journal. However, I was taking 5 classes and all of them required a final the first semester (only one take home). Adjusting to adding journal and planning and attending multiple events for BLSA made my first semester of 2L just as much as getting used as my 1L year. Even though I was extremely busy with balancing school, journal, BLSA and my non-school hobbies/job, I still managed to get the best grades of my law school career that semester and finally got my overall GPA to one I could be happy with. I even CALI’d my Criminal Procedure class and it was super affirming for me as Criminal Defense is the type of law I’m leaning towards. In the middle of finals season my dad had something wrong with his stomach and could have died and my mom had a fall and was hospitalized so I honestly wasn’t expecting to do that well.

Second Semester

The second semester finally felt like I was getting the hang of things, and then Miss Corona struck and lowkey ruined my whole flow of school. The week prior to spring break I was staying at school until midnight or so working on journal assignments just because I really enjoyed being able to leave everything at school and let home be my resting place. That all changed once we switched to Zoom School of Law after spring break. Having to take online classes has never been my strong suit. I literally avoided them in undergrad because the few times I took them I just didn’t learn as well and struggled. Zoom School of Law was no different. This past semester was soooo challenging for me and there is honestly still one class where Idk what the hell was going on in there. It was also really hard because at the beginning my family wasn’t understanding that yes, I actually work on law school stuff all day, especially if we have a journal round due that same week. It was just really stressful. Many arguments took place but we eventually came to an understanding. I’m really just glad it’s over and praying that Fall 2020 meets in person (so long as it’s safe to do so).

 

BLSA

I enjoyed my time as BLSA’s VP of Programming immensely! My president and right-hand woman, Jazmine, was such a great leader this past year and is an even better friend. I also enjoyed how well our board got along and all of the wonderful events we brought to Boyd’s campus. Regardless of my political beliefs or who I wanted to be president, the fact that we were able to bring Pete Buttigieg to our campus in the spring was pretty amazing. Even prior to the spring we switched up so much of our programming and had great events all around. I also went to our Western Regional Convention for the first time and it was EVERYTHING and more. I met so many beautiful and brilliant fellow black law students. I ran into two friends from undergrad and it was so great seeing them! We also got to go to a Clippers game and even though I’M a LAKER FAN til forever, I root for Kahwi because he went to SDSU. The trip also allowed me to grow closer to my friends from my own school. I even got to record a wonderful episode for my podcast with Jazmine and Aariel. All 3 of us decided to be on the regional e-board for next year and I’m super excited for whats to come from that! I’m so happy I became more involved with BLSA after my 1L year and so proud of our board for everything we did!

Gaming Law Journal

I will say that even though journal is A LOT of work, I’m really glad I chose to write-on. I debated back in forth the summer before 2L and decided just to do it and I don’t regret it. My citation skills have grown sooo much and I feel like I’m starting to know the bluebook like the back of my hand. The best part of being on journal was grabbing food and a beer or wine from Cheba Hut and the fun late-night editing sessions my friends and I had in the journal room. Those are some of my favorite memories of 2L. So many non-academic and hilarious conversations happened in that room and even though I sometimes dreaded going there, I miss it now! I clearly loved my experience on journal a lot because I decided to try and get the position of Managing Editor for my 3L year and I GOT IT. I’m still a little nervous even though I’m technically the current Managing Editor. I have some big shoes to fill because our last one was AMAZING. I’m excited to help the journal continue growing in the right direction.

 

So that’s my 2L year summed up. It was unlike any academic year I’ve ever experienced before and I’m sure I left some stuff out.

 

Leave a comment below if you want to know more about my 2L experience or law school in general!

 

Have a great day!

Book Review: The Defining Decade

There are fewer things as of late that make me happier than chilling in my bed with a book and reading right before I go to sleep. As I mentioned in  a previous post, one of my goals this year was to read one book a month, every month. While I can’t say I’ve managed to do that…I am pretty close to having read 7 books so far this year. I decided instead of just reading these books, taking notes, and going on the next book, I wanted to start sharing the books I really liked with my readers by starting a new series dedicated to reviewing books I’ve read. My main focus will be books I believe twenty-somethings should read. That being said, it is more than fitting my first book review is on one of my favorite reads this year “The Defining Decade: Why your twenties matter—and how to make the most of them now” by Meg Jay, PhD.

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The thing I enjoyed about this book was how much applicable advice it has for twentysomethings going through the post-grad struggle. From finding a job, to relationships and marriage, and even family planning, this book touches on topics that many of us like to put off as some abstract thing in the distant future when really…the future will be here before we even have time to blink. Okay, I’m being dramatic but that’s only because the author does such a great job of making the reader come to the realization that future is not as far off as we believe (or try to convince ourselves) it to be. Now is the time for us to not get caught up in going with the flow but to  actually make plans and lay the foundation for the rest of our lives while we have the least amount of strings (read: life partners, spouses, children) attached, according to Jay. She is a therapist and discusses her various twentysomething year old clients, their struggles, and solutions to the common twentysomething year old’s problems. I like this book because for once, there is a book talking to twentysomethings instead of about us. In this review I will share my three favorite quotes, two criticisms, and one overall review of the book and who I think should read the book.

1. “Shoulds can masquerade as high standards or lofty goals, but they are not the same. Goals direct us from the inside, but shoulds are paralyzing judgments from the outside. Goals feel like authentic dreams while shoulds feel like oppressive obligations.” pg. 47

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I particularly enjoy this quote because in the social media age everyone is guilty of comparing ourselves to our peers based on what they are uploading on their profiles, the new job they just got, their engagement announcement, etc. However, as Jay reminds us, thinking we should have these things based on what we see on social media (in the book she is actually talking about Facebook but I think it can apply to all social media we use) is detrimental to our well-being. I really enjoyed the chapter this quote is from.

2. “More and more twentysomethings are careful not to rush into marriage at a young age, yet many do not know what else to consider.” pg. 73

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When talking about twentysomethings and relationships (or meaningless hookups) Jay holds no punches. She gets really real about random hookups, cohabitation (living with a partner before being married), and actual marriage. I enjoyed this section because even now I am still guilty of putting off marriage in hopes that it will make for a better marriage but that is not realistic. The chapter on love was a good gut check for me and I’m sure it will be for any twentysomething “living in the moment” when it comes to love and relationships. It also offers suggestions of traits/values that partners should have similarities on before deciding to take the next step, and other stats (which she provides citations for) in regards to loving together before marriage, a list of other things that come up in relationships.

3. “Most twentysomethings can’t write the last sentence of their lives, but when pressed, they usually can identify things they want in their thirties or forties or sixties—or things they don’t want—and work backwards from there.” pg 198 (last page before the epilogue)

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I think this was a great quote to end on before the epilogue. Many times the idea of the future can be daunting and overwhelming. However, the beautiful things about our twenties is that we can get really honest with ourselves and decide what it is we truly want our lives to look like and make the changes/take the steps towards doing those things and stop our behaviors that are getting in the way of that. We may not know what our twenties have in store but with some deep reflection and introspection I’m sure we can decide what we at least want our lives to look like when it’s all said and done and Jay reminds us of that.

Criticisms of the book:

Although I honestly love this book very much and it has been one of my favorite reads, that’s not to say the book doesn’t have some flaws. I will be discussing two of them.

1. This book is aimed towards a very specific type of twentysomething: non-married college grads with no kids.

While non-college grads twentysomethings who may or may not have kids could probably take the meat of what is written in Jay’s novel, the novel does work around the fact that our twenties are the best time for us to do x, y, and z because we don’t have children (yet) or aren’t married (yet) and thus doing certain things to advance our careers and lives, etc are easier. I don’t think much of the advice would be as relatable to me if I wasn’t a college grad or at least in college right now. However, the overall theme of the book would be: the twenties set the foundation for the rest of your life. Because let’s face it, they do.

2. This book assumes that every twentysomething wants a (heteronormative) monogamous relationship with children to come soon after marriage.

The times are changing and I know many people, especially women who don’t want children, ever. Even for those who may struggle with fertility, the section on getting older and fertility doesn’t even suggest adoption or anything of the sort, only being mindful of not putting off having children when you are too old. Either way, there is a specific lifestyle in mind when Jay is writing which I think is fine, people should stick to lakes and rivers they’re used to but for those who may not adhere to these things, especially the desire to have children, a good section of the book might be useless. That’s not to say the rest of the book is useless. I’m sure all twentysomethings can find a piece of advice in this book that is relatable, but a only a certain type of twentysomething will be able to relate to all of it.

Overall Rating: 8.5

I really enjoyed this book but as I have mentioned, I very much fall into the intended audience demographic. For those who find themselves in the post-grad struggle, unsure about their current non-career related job, love and relationships, and exactly when they should entertain the idea of children this book is a MUST READ! I do think ALL twentysomethings could stand to read it and learn a thing or two that relates to the uncertainty that comes with our twenties and “making the best” out of them.

What do you think is are MUST READS for twentysomethings? Let me know in the comments!

My Current Favorite Workout Routines

Hey y’all! I hope you are doing well given the circumstances. This past week I attempted to conduct a Q&A Session on my Instagram stories in order to write a blog full of questions from you all and answers from me. I think next time I want to use my CuriousCat instead because I know some people are shy. If you would like to ask questions anonymously, please see my CuriousCat here. For this round, I only got one question, but it was such a great one! Someone asked me for my “fave workout routines.” I’ve been trying to find my flow for working out at home for the last few weeks and I think I finally found some routines and a schedule I don’t hate. Full disclosure, my dad has always been a super-duper homebody and has some workout equipment that many people might not have at their homes and some of my routines do incorporate that. I also already own resistance loops for booty work and was able to snag some 10lb dumbbells and a yoga mat before things got super crazy, so I use those as well. Find a perfect substitution for you. I also want to say while I do enjoy working out, I am by no means a certified fitness trainer. The only format I am certified is MixxedFit which incorporates dance moves with body weight toning. These are just workouts that work for me, please make sure to look up how to do the moves properly before you attempt any of these routines.

Full Body Workout

I think if you want to get a good workout in, it always a good idea to have one longer workout routine that incorporates various parts of the body. When I was able to go to the gym, full body workouts were my absolute favorite and they still are now that I workout from home. This routine has become my go-to on the days I have more time to dedicate to working out and relaxing afterwards.

First things first, it’s important to warm up before you workout. For my full body workouts I usually workout this way:

  • Resistance Band Walk 30 Secs 2x
  • Resistance Band Hip Adduction 12 reps 2x
  • Resistance Band Kickbacks 12 reps 2x

After warming up I get into the workout:

  • Lateral Raise & Front Raise – Dumbbells (Superset) 10-12 reps 3x (click here for an example) (these are great for when you want to get more of a workout in but use less time)
  • Squats – w/ Dumbbells or Bodyweight 10-12 reps 3x (click here for an example)
  • Seated Overhead Press – Dumbbells 10-12 reps 3x (click here for an example)
  • Bent Over One Arm Row – Dumbbells 10-12 reps 3x each arm (click here for an example)
  • Plank 35 secs 3x

Abs/Core Workout Routine

I have a love/hate relationship with core/ab workouts because mine used to be really strong and I kinda took it for granted and let it fall to the wayside. I used to always skip my core days and just recently started embracing them. Core strength is important because it helps you with your balance in every other type of workout and your overall balance in general. I don’t have examples for these ones but they are all pretty well known in the fitness world.

  • 3 Jumping Jacks or any cardio just to get your heart rate up
  • Side Bend – Dumbbell 10-12 reps 3x
  • Ab Wheel 6 reps 3x:
  • Side Plank 30 secs 3x
  • Russian Twists 10-12 reps 3x
  • Planks 35 secs 3x

Listen, I barely incorporated the ab wheel because I found one in my dad’s workout area and figured what the hell, I’ll try it. I could only do 6 at a time and couldn’t even go all the way out.. The next day I was sore as all hell! I have never been THAT sore in my abdominal area from a workout. This has given something to work towards during this time and by the end of 2020 I want to be able to use it effortlessly. I’m also currently working on my lower body/glutes routine for the days I have to recover from my ab wheel like I did yesterday! I tell my friends all the time I have until mid-2021 to build a booty or I’m gonna buy one and I haven’t decided if I’m kidding yet.

If you are interested in my glutes and lower body routine once I figure it out, leave a comment below and let me know. I will put it on the blog if it’s something people actually want to see.

I hope you enjoyed this post as much as I enjoyed writing it! If you want to participate in my next Q&A blog (or first one rather) write a question on my CuriousCat  or you can leave a comment with a question or any other feedback you’d like. Have a great day!

7 Things You Should Have By The Time You’re 27

Hey readers! This week I decided to post something birthday-related like I did when I turned 25 (one of my favorite posts, ever!). I talked about it on instagram but I always super excited to turn 27 because the number 27 has literally followed me since I can remember. Many important things, dates, etc. in my life have always been on the 27th or related to the number 27. The point is this birthday is a birthday I was looking forward to for a while. Obviously this year is nothing like I imagined buuut I’m still interested in seeing how 27 plays out.

I wanted to keep this post a little light and playful so while most of these suggestions are super serious and things I believe are needed for overall wellness, some of them are also just me making jokes about things that I like. Here are 7 things I personally think EVERYONE should have by the time they ring in their 27th birthday!

1. Self-Awareness

The other day I had a session with my therapist and I was venting about something (surprise surprise) and I noted how my role in the situation I was talking about. My therapist then gave me one of the best compliments I’ve ever gotten; she said that I was really self-aware. I think the sooner the better when it comes to fostering your self-awareness, but I personally think from age 26 to age 27 is when mine has improved the most.

2. A Solid Group of Best Friends

By no means am I saying that you will have every friend you will ever have or that you will lose every friend you will lose but I definitely think by age 27 you should have your solid group of best friends. I will tell anyone who will listen that I’m a girl’s girl and will literally go to the end of the earth for my friends. Obviously your group of best friends does not have to be one gender, I just don’t have very many male friends in general and definitely not any male best friends.

3. A Core Set of Values

Your values are always changing so this one may be a trick one but I do think by age 27 you should know how to assess your values for that current moment in your life and stick by them no matter one. I remember when I was in undergrad I attended this event and one of the speakers emphasized how important it is to know your values. She said that you have to know your values otherwise you will not know how to navigate making difficult decisions when they arise. If you don’t know your values, you won’t know when to say no to certain opportunities or other things that may go against your values. I think it’s really important to know how to know to do a values inventory by the time you turn 27.

4. A Therapist

First I must address that I know that therapy is nowhere near as accessible as it should be (which sucks) but I do think everyone should try to go to therapy by the time they are 27. Personally, I went from the first time when I was 26 but I definitely wish I had gone way sooner. Having a therapist has been a major game-changer for me. Not only am I able to regulate my emotions better when I’m not in therapy, I don’t have to always be the friend who is venting about my issues when I talk to my friends. I never want to be that person and I think getting a therapist has helped me make sure I am a better friend, daughter, student, and everything else than I was before.

5. Hobbies You Aren’t Trying to Monetize

There was a point in time when I thought I needed to profit off of everything I enjoyed/was good at. Can you blame me? As millennials and Gen Z there is a constant focus on having side hustles. This is due to us trying to make ends meet and the cost of living rising without minimum wage doing the same. Anyways, something you should have by the age of 27 is a hobby that you throuhouly enjoy that doesn’t make you money. I learned over the years that if you try to make money from everything you do you know longer enjoy your hobbies like you used to and it changes the creative process of it all. I do still think it’s important to have a side hustle but everything doesn’t need to be a side hustle.

6. A Go-To Brunch Spot

This is more of a fun suggestion since the rest of the list is pretty serious. I don’t know about y’all but ya girl loves a good brunch. It’s literally a part of my brand at this point, hahaha. As I get older the long nights out at the club shifted to day drinking and in my opinion, brunch is one of the most fun ways to engage in day drinking. If you’re not a big drinker (I’m getting there slowly but surely) brunch food is also just really good and a great meal to eat while catching up with friends! If you and your friends are brunch-enthusiasts, it’s so important to have a brunch recommendation when they go come into town. With all of this being said, I think everybody should have a go-to brunch spot by age 27, especially if you want me to visit you because brunch is my favorite pass time!

7. A Signature Drink When You Go Out

I don’t think that 27 is some old age but it definitely doesn’t feel the same as the youthfulness of 21. I’m not sure exactly when this happened but when I was in my early twenties I could drink whatever I was handed. Now-a-days my body only responds well to certain types of drinks and will go completely insane if I try to drink the forbidden ones (I’m looking at you, vodka shots!). I really do think having a signature drink or a few if you like to switch it up is an important part of being a more sophisticated drinker. There’s something about going up to the bar and already knowing what I’m going to order each time and what I always order that makes me feel more grown, haha!

Of course, it goes without saying that we all enjoy different things and there is no one right* way to be in your late 20s. These are just some of the few things I think everyone should have by the time they are 27, or at least what I’m glad I have now that I’m 27.

What are some things you hope to have by age 27? If you are 27+, what advice do you give to early-20s and mid-20s readers? Sound off in the comments below!

3 Fun and Virtual Ways to Practice Social-Distancing #StayTheFHome

Hello my amazing readers! I hope you are holding up well. I know last blog post I said I didn’t want to write about the current global pandemic but it’s been brought to my attention that many people are not understanding that we need to practice social distancing right now to flatten the curve. For information on that click here.

As an Aries sun and extrovert queen I am completely aware of how hard it is to stay home and not hang out in person with our friends. However, this entire COVID-19 situation has helped me learn various ways I can hang out with my friends virtually until we are able to leave our homes for more than essentials. These virtual hangouts are a great way to get that social interaction in without putting yourself or others at risk of spreading COVID-19.

Have A Zoom Party

I know, we are over Zoom as many of us are attending Zoom University or Zoom School of Law but listen, Zoom parties/hangouts have been getting me through this entire social-distancing thing! In the past few weeks my friends and I have done everything on Zoom from our school hosting a Virtual Bar Review (Bar Review is a law school event when student organizations  take turns hosting an event at a local bar every week), Wine Wednesday, my birthday party, and a regular Zoom party (ya girl was the DJ). While it’s clearly not the same as going to the bar, it is still a fun time and you get to see everyone’s faces. Group Facetime could also be an option but not everyone has an iPhone and we don’t want exclude our Android using friends. Make sure to have a password for your chats as people have been getting hacked on their Zoom calls.

Host a Movie Night on Netflix Party

I am so upset it took social distancing for me to discover Netflix Party because it is truly a Godsend! One night a group of friends and I watched 3 episodes of Black Mirror (White Christmas, Black Museum, and Hang The DJ for all my Black Mirror Fans out there wondering) and it was literally so much fun. How it works is you download the Netflix Party extension here and then someone invites everyone through a link and all of you can watch the show/movie/whatever you decide to watch synced together at the same time. You can even pause it if some needs to use the bathroom or get some more snacks/wine! I really enjoyed it because there is also a chatbox on the side and you can type your feelings while watching. It’s especially fun when you watch something as crazy as Black Mirror with people who have never seen it before. I am super excited to have more Netflix Watch Parties in the future. This is not only a good tool for social-distancing. My best friend lives in Tulsa and I already know I’m going to plan some movie nights with her from now on, even after this social-distancing life is over. It is also useful for couples in long distance relationships to plan their own version of Netflix & Chill, hahaha! To download Netflix Party extension click here!

Play some Virtual Card Games

You and your friends can play different card games here. I haven’t had the chance to use this particular resource but one of my friends shared it in our group text and it sounded like so much fun. They even have they have their own version of Cards Against Humanity called Remote Insensitivity. Set this up with a separate video chat and it will be a blast. I have yet to use this resource yet but I’m looking forward to doing so on some of the other virtual chats I will have over the next month or two or however long.

These are just a few of the many resources we can use during this social distancing time. I’m sure there are many that I will discover as we continue this practice of staying home and interacting with our friends on their internet. We can also use the good ol’ fasioned Facetime, Skype, Google Hangouts, and other video chats that exist.

Do you have any favorite virtual ways to social-distance and still hang out with your friends? Let me know in the comments below!

My Failed Attempt At A 30 Day Yoga Challenge (and What I Learned From It)

Hey readers! Long time no…post? I’m sure it’s of no surprise that life has been extremely hectic over here (and everywhere else, I imagine). Prior to my spring break from school I suffered somewhat of a writer’s block. Just as I was brainstorming new topics to write about and was struck by inspiration, the COVID 19 chaos escalated extremely quickly. I’ve been coping with that and trying to figure out how I was wanting to move forward with both the blog and podcast. Yes, I started a podcast! Click here for Apple podcasts, here for Spotify, and here for Soundcloud. Anyways, I want to acknowledge that the deaths and tragedies from COVID 19 are deeply upsetting to me. I’m praying for everyone affected by it. On my blog, I will be blogging as if it’s business as usual but that’s only because it is helping me not lose my mind. I don’t want people to think I don’t care about this tragedy, but I honestly want to use my blog as a distraction for others and myself.

Now that I’ve made that disclaimer I’m going to talk about something I TRIED to do at the beginning of March that quickly fizzled out prior to any of the current madness going on. In February I had the wonderful idea of starting a 30 Day Yoga Challenge for many reasons. One reason was that I had always wanted to get into Yoga and I figured a 30 Day Yoga Challenge was the perfect way to do some. Another reason was that I’m nowhere near flexible and I figured Yoga was the perfect way to gain flexibility, agility, and strength all at once. It was also perfect for relaxing. Finally, I wanted to do the 30 Day Yoga Challenge so I could document my journey with it for this blog of mine. Everything was going to be great.

Spoiler alert: everything was not great and I definitely dropped the ball pretty earlier on in my Yoga Challenge. Now that I look back on my preparation and attempt, I know exactly where I messed up and where I can improve the next time I attempt a Yoga Challenge (hint: coming soon!)

In preparing for my 30 Day Yoga Challenge I thought I had taken the necessary steps to ensure my success. I downloaded some free Yoga apps, I picked the Yoga Classes I wanted to go to at my local gyms, and I “scheduled” them on my calendar. However, in retrospect many mistakes were made by ya girl. I’ll name them.

Mistake #1: Picking a long time span for my challenge

If I can say one thing about myself it’s that sometimes I can be an all or nothing type of person. If I can’t do something exactly as it should be or perfectly then I can (not always, but often) become discouraged and just say EFF IT, I’m not doing this. Since I knew this about myself, I should not have “committed” to such a long time span for a Yoga Challenge, especially since I had never really done yoga before this. I think I missed a day pretty early on (like day 7 or so) and it made me not even want to do the challenge anymore because I wasn’t perfect and technically already failed the challenge.

What I learned: Make the challenge span shorter, especially if you’re new to an activity. I think next time I will go with 5 or 7 Day challenge. I can do anything for 5 to 7 days!

Mistake #2: Not buying the necessary materials for the challenge

Although I did download the free yoga apps and had my gym membership, I never bought a yoga mat and looking back that was so foolish! How could I expect myself to fully commit to an entire 30 Day challenge if I didn’t even have the most basic yoga necessity: a mat! Improvised by doing bed yoga and standing yoga on the days when I did yoga at home. However, the days I didn’t make it to the gym and grew bored of bed yoga, I really wished I had a mat and just didn’t do the yoga.

What I learned: This one is simple, make a full list of EVERYTHING you need for a challenge and make sure to actually buy it and not put it off. This is especially true if you are a busy person and don’t know how or when you’ll have to time to buy a mat.

Mistake #3: Not fully committing to the yoga session I scheduled

I would always tell myself when I was going to go to Yoga but it was really rare I actually wrote it down in my planner, set my google calendar reminder, and stuck to it. If I even did it at all (I don’t think I do more than write it in my planner a few days). I wasn’t fully committed and that was definitely reflected by the lack of yoga scheduled into my life. I would always say “I’ll just do it before bed” if I skipped a session I had written down. God forbid if I got too tired, I would just skip the yoga all together and tell myself “I’ll double up tomorrow.” Like no, schedule it like you do all your other workouts and just get it done!

What I learned: Setting reminders to complete your daily challenge is key. It is not enough to just write it down or put it somewhere you only see once a day. As a busy person, alarms and reminders are lifesavers for me and this challenge was no different. Next time I will make sure to have daily reminders to stick to my schedule and not neglect it.

These are the main lessons I learned from my short-lived stint at trying a 30 Day Yoga Challenge. Now that I have failed, I’m excited to try another Yoga Challenge with this new information I have. I’m going to have a lot of free time in the foreseeable future, so this is the perfect time for me to learn a new activity/pick up a new hobby. I can’t wait to see how my next attempt will go (coming soon!) Be on the lookout for my next yoga shenanigans.

Have you ever done a 30 Day Yoga Challenge or any other month long challenge? How did you do? Let me know in the comments below!