4 Tips For Winning The Battle Against Your Post-Grad Blues

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Post-grad blues are no joke. While not everyone is affected by these feelings of sadness once they graduate, many people are. I know when I graduated I got my degree and said “now what?” I had been in school for the majority of my life, graduated with no job, and really no sense of purpose. Those first 6 months or so were really rough and I felt sad more often than not. I can’t even imagine how 2020 grads are feeling with their ceremonies having been cancelled or online due to the pandemic. However, in today’s post I’m suggesting some things that helped me get through the trying times of  battling with post-grad blues and hopefully they will help you too!

Wake-Up and Say Those Affirmations!

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The post-grad blues period after graduating can definitely get you down (they don’t call it post-grad blues for nothin’). One way I battled this overwhelming sense of emptiness and lack of purpose was through repeating affirmations to myself every morning when I woke up. While each person has to determine what they want out of life to come up with their own, I think the ones I used during this rough time are definitely a good place to start. I found these at this article here.

I also wrote a blog post about creating your perfect affirmations earlier this year. All that matters is you remind yourself that you are deserving and destined for greatness!

Journal About Your Feelings Towards Being Graduated (and your feelings in general)

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For people like myself, it is easy to start feeling down when you are trying to find employment or have too much free time on your hands after graduating. One thing I have made more of a consistent habit is journaling. I try* process all my feelings by journaling at least 3 times a week. When I was unemployed I wrote about how being unemployed made me feel (leave out nothing…even the feelings of worthlessness and sadness). I’ve vented my frustrations and promised myself that I will never take being employed for granted again. While it is usual to complain about one’s job (unless it’s your dream job, which mine is being an attorney so I’m a long ways off), to be ungrateful for one’s job is not good for the soul. In cases where your boss is a jerk it’s different but at the same time, I have always hated being unemployed more than having a job I hate (blame my materialistic desires and FOMO). I hope to look back on my unemployment entries of journal should I ever start hating my jobs (hopefully I won’t).

Find a New Hobby or Invest Time in an Old One

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Whether you’ve always loved painting but college got in the way, or you want to learn how to dance salsa, or anything in between you have plenty of time to do it in your down time on the post-grad job search. One thing I started doing again while I was unemployed is reading. One of my goals this year is to read two books a month and it hasn’t been hard thus far considering I didn’t have really anything better to do. Another hobby I dedicated more time to while I was unemployed was blogging. It felt good to be doing things I wanted to do in undergrad that I simply didn’t have the time to do.

Get Off Your Ass and Get Active

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Seriously! This one is a good morale booster. Whether I was dancing, working out, going for a walk, jog, or run, dedicating time to working out wasn’t something I did until towards the end of my unemployment/post-grad experience and I wish I had a started sooner. Not only do you have time to figure out what kind of workouts you love, you can find a purpose in setting non-work related goals. One of my goals when I was employed was to walk at least 10,000 steps a day. This doesn’t sound like a lot but there would be days when I was unemployed where I sat around ALL day and barely clocked in 2,000 steps, YIKES! If you’re currently unemployed it doesn’t mean you have to sit around all day and become a sloth (I was guilty of this for a while).

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The post-grad “Damn I don’t have a job/I’m done with school” blues are real and it can take over your mind, body, and spirit if you let it. Even if you are employed, being out of school after being in school your whole life is a rough transition for me. I have suffered from the deepest of post-grad blues and it is not pretty. Even if you are employed there are times where you can find yourself missing being in undergrad and carefree. The key to surviving this turbulent transition in life is to happen to it instead of allowing it to happen to you. If you already have a job it can be even easier to get caught up in the motions and find yourself still battling those post-grad blues. Find balance between keeping yourself busy and doing things you love. When you’re unemployed, finding things to occupy your time during your job search (and make sure you are ACTIVELY searching) will make the time in between graduation and being unemployed fly by.  You may even walk away from it being more enlightened, educated, and experienced person than the day you got your degree. If you don’t have a job or haven’t taken steps towards career yet, don’t beat yourself up about it. These things take time and there is always a lesson in the struggle! ALWAYS.

(Author’s Note: If you think you suffer from depression or any other mental illness, contact a professional for help. These tips will not cure depression.)

Unconventional Tips for the LSAT (and Affirmations)

Ah, the LSAT. Every aspiring law student’s worst nightmare. Well, at least it was my worst nightmare at the time. I can remember studying for the LSAT like it was yesterday. I was super stressed out and kept scoring a lower score than I wanted to when I took practice tests. I also wasn’t scoring what I needed to get into the school I wanted to go to. My undergrad GPA was decent but definitely not one of the GPAs that make the LSAT less of a big deal. I had spent over $1,000 on my LSAT prep course (I needed a course because I was not self-disciplined enough to study on my own free-will as a recovering busybody who studied when I had time to…not because I chose to). The LSAT I had decided to take was the last possibly one I could take before deadlines for admission materials were due so it was either do well on this one or put off law school for another year (which in retrospect wouldn’t have been sooo horrible but at the time it sounded like the end of the world since I had already taken 2 years off after undergrad).

During my 2-year gap between undergrad and law school, one thing I had really gotten into was the Law of Attraction and all of its subparts like visualization, positive thinking, and affirmations (which I have written about before). I knew that I truly could manifest anything that I wanted if I really believed it, released it, and did the work to make it happen without worrying about. It was the final week before the LSAT and I realized I hadn’t written any affirmations for the test. I had written affirmations for every other life event that I had going on prior to this so it didn’t make sense that I hadn’t made any for the LSAT. They really helped me and have helped other people that I’ve shared them with. I decided to write this blog post with the LSAT affirmations I created for those taking the upcoming July LSAT this Saturday. Read them below!

 

I enjoy the subjects I am studying

I easily understand and retain what I study

I study hard and regularly

I am always relaxed during exams.

During the exams, I recall information quickly and easily.
My memory is sharp.

I pass exams easily.

Reading Comprehension comes naturally to me.

Logic Games are fun and I enjoy the challenge.

I always know the correct answers for Logical Reasoning questions.

I am prepared for the LSAT.

I will conquer the LSAT.

I will get into Law School.

I will be an attorney.

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Hopefully these affirmations give you some last-minute confidence for the LSAT. I have two other tips that helped me get the score I wanted. Of course, I didn’t take my LSAT during a global pandemic so my experience was completely different, but these aren’t reliant on us not experiencing a pandemic so it doesn’t hurt to give them a try.

The first tip is to chant the score you want out loud after you finish practicing for the day (I know it sounds crazy but hear me out). My entire time studying for the LSAT the highest score I got was a 155, which isn’t horrible…but I wanted a 160 to ensure I would get into the school I wanted to (a 160 was higher than their average). I chanted it after every practice tests and practice section I would do. Even though I never scored a 160 on any of my practice tests, I knew I was destined to get a 160. I would chant it and visualize it and guess what? I scored a 160 and in the 80th percentile for that testing period.

The next tip is to make a LSAT day playlist to pump you up on test day! Make sure it’s super uplifting and matches the vibe you want to go into test day with. On my LSAT playlist I had different songs like Bodak Yellow – Cardi B, FORMATION – Beyoncé, CRZY – Kehlani, Blessings – Big Sean ft. Drake, DNA. – Kendrick Lamar, and Know Yourself – Drake. Formation and Bodak Yellow definitely had me feeling like a bad b*tch walking into the testing center, even if I was nervous. Put whatever songs make you feel like you can handle anything thrown your way.

The LSAT is just one of many tests you will take in your upcoming legal career. It seems scary now but you will look back at it once you’re in law school and not feel the sense of terror that you may be feeling now. Keep studying, say your affirmations, and remember YOU GOT THIS!

Share this post with any other aspiring law students you know who are taking the LSAT this year.

 

How To Create Your Perfect Affirmations

Saying affirmations out loud every morning literally changed my life…or at least allowed me to shift my life in the direction I wanted. If you’re not familiar with affirmations, you may be wondering “what are affirmations?” In the most basic way I can describe them, affirmations are usually brief statements that assert something as true or a fact. In the law of attraction school of thought, affirmations are positive statements that reflect the reality that we want. They are a way that we can speak what we want into existence. I may or may not have confused you even more with this statement but it’s okay. Once you read this blog post, you will have a better understand of what affirmations are and how to create the perfect affirmations for yourself.

1. Reflect on what truth you want your affirmation(s) to center around

In order to make your perfect affirmations, you must be clear on what it is you want to affirm for yourself. This may change depending on what is going on in your life. One example of this is that once everything started with the pandemic, I became really anxious about my health. Even prior to the pandemic I’ve always had my own undiagnosed health anxiety and my doctor even forbade me from googling symptoms. Whenever I feel myself getting anxious about my health, I work on affirmations to combat that and calm me down. One of my favorite affirmations is actually 3 that I say together: my body is healthy, my mind is brilliant, my soul is tranquil. The “my body is healthy” part is very important to me maintaining peace about my health.

2. Keep your affirmations in the present tense

Writing your affirmations in the present tense is extremely important. The past is done and over with and we can’t predict the future, we can only try to create it and manifest the life we desire. Which one sounds more powerful: I will become a best-selling author or I AM a best-selling author. The “I am” statement is much more powerful. I know what you may be thinking. “Mara, I’m NOT a best-selling author.” I would respond, of course not with that attitude. All jokes aside, right now you may not actually be a best-selling author but you can make it so by believing it and doing the work to make it happen. The point of repeating affirmations is to create your truth and manifest the reality that already exists. When I was waiting to be accepted into law school, I would tell myself “I’m already a law student, that reality already exists.” Not only was I admitted into law school, I also received a full-tuition scholarship to pay for it. Present-tense affirmations are crucial in creating your own reality.

3. Speak in a positive manner

Another key part of creating your perfect affirmations is focusing on what you want to be true, not what you want to avoid. I’m not going to get too deep into the law of attraction but the basics of it is that whatever you focus on is what you will attract. If your affirmations focus on something you don’t want to happen, you can actually attract that thing to you instead of avoiding it. This may trip people up but it’s so important to keep in mind. Instead of saying “I no longer have debt” you can say “I am debt-free.” They are saying the same exact thing but just as the best-selling author example I mentioned earlier, the “I am” affirmation about being debt-free just sounds more powerful and in a positive tone so your desires can’t get lost in translation. Make sure to write your affirmations in the positive to send the correct message of what you want.

Here are 3 of my favorite affirmations to give you more inspiration.

My body is healthy, my mind is brilliant, my soul is tranquil.

Today I eat for my goal weight. Today I exercise for my goal. I am my goal weight.

I recall information quickly and easily during exams.

Saying affirmations every morning can really start your day on the right track. Hopefully this How To Guide allows you to create your perfect affirmations and work towards cultivating the life you desire. Keep these tips and mind and get to manifesting.

Did you find this post as a good starting point for writing affirmations? Leave a comment with a new affirmation and this post with somebody who could use it today!