4 Tips For Winning The Battle Against Your Post-Grad Blues

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Post-grad blues are no joke. While not everyone is affected by these feelings of sadness once they graduate, many people are. I know when I graduated I got my degree and said “now what?” I had been in school for the majority of my life, graduated with no job, and really no sense of purpose. Those first 6 months or so were really rough and I felt sad more often than not. I can’t even imagine how 2020 grads are feeling with their ceremonies having been cancelled or online due to the pandemic. However, in today’s post I’m suggesting some things that helped me get through the trying times of  battling with post-grad blues and hopefully they will help you too!

Wake-Up and Say Those Affirmations!

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The post-grad blues period after graduating can definitely get you down (they don’t call it post-grad blues for nothin’). One way I battled this overwhelming sense of emptiness and lack of purpose was through repeating affirmations to myself every morning when I woke up. While each person has to determine what they want out of life to come up with their own, I think the ones I used during this rough time are definitely a good place to start. I found these at this article here.

I also wrote a blog post about creating your perfect affirmations earlier this year. All that matters is you remind yourself that you are deserving and destined for greatness!

Journal About Your Feelings Towards Being Graduated (and your feelings in general)

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For people like myself, it is easy to start feeling down when you are trying to find employment or have too much free time on your hands after graduating. One thing I have made more of a consistent habit is journaling. I try* process all my feelings by journaling at least 3 times a week. When I was unemployed I wrote about how being unemployed made me feel (leave out nothing…even the feelings of worthlessness and sadness). I’ve vented my frustrations and promised myself that I will never take being employed for granted again. While it is usual to complain about one’s job (unless it’s your dream job, which mine is being an attorney so I’m a long ways off), to be ungrateful for one’s job is not good for the soul. In cases where your boss is a jerk it’s different but at the same time, I have always hated being unemployed more than having a job I hate (blame my materialistic desires and FOMO). I hope to look back on my unemployment entries of journal should I ever start hating my jobs (hopefully I won’t).

Find a New Hobby or Invest Time in an Old One

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Whether you’ve always loved painting but college got in the way, or you want to learn how to dance salsa, or anything in between you have plenty of time to do it in your down time on the post-grad job search. One thing I started doing again while I was unemployed is reading. One of my goals this year is to read two books a month and it hasn’t been hard thus far considering I didn’t have really anything better to do. Another hobby I dedicated more time to while I was unemployed was blogging. It felt good to be doing things I wanted to do in undergrad that I simply didn’t have the time to do.

Get Off Your Ass and Get Active

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Seriously! This one is a good morale booster. Whether I was dancing, working out, going for a walk, jog, or run, dedicating time to working out wasn’t something I did until towards the end of my unemployment/post-grad experience and I wish I had a started sooner. Not only do you have time to figure out what kind of workouts you love, you can find a purpose in setting non-work related goals. One of my goals when I was employed was to walk at least 10,000 steps a day. This doesn’t sound like a lot but there would be days when I was unemployed where I sat around ALL day and barely clocked in 2,000 steps, YIKES! If you’re currently unemployed it doesn’t mean you have to sit around all day and become a sloth (I was guilty of this for a while).

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The post-grad “Damn I don’t have a job/I’m done with school” blues are real and it can take over your mind, body, and spirit if you let it. Even if you are employed, being out of school after being in school your whole life is a rough transition for me. I have suffered from the deepest of post-grad blues and it is not pretty. Even if you are employed there are times where you can find yourself missing being in undergrad and carefree. The key to surviving this turbulent transition in life is to happen to it instead of allowing it to happen to you. If you already have a job it can be even easier to get caught up in the motions and find yourself still battling those post-grad blues. Find balance between keeping yourself busy and doing things you love. When you’re unemployed, finding things to occupy your time during your job search (and make sure you are ACTIVELY searching) will make the time in between graduation and being unemployed fly by.  You may even walk away from it being more enlightened, educated, and experienced person than the day you got your degree. If you don’t have a job or haven’t taken steps towards career yet, don’t beat yourself up about it. These things take time and there is always a lesson in the struggle! ALWAYS.

(Author’s Note: If you think you suffer from depression or any other mental illness, contact a professional for help. These tips will not cure depression.)

7 thoughts on “4 Tips For Winning The Battle Against Your Post-Grad Blues

  1. JULE$ says:

    Damn, reading the article about the post-grad blues definitely hit me because I feel like I am still not at where I want to be, despite at least having a job post-grad. I’m glad that some of the things that you have done, like revisiting an old hobby, I am also doing now; however, I do admit that I feel like I can do more with my time and I am still not where I want to be. But perhaps that is also just me being hard on myself because I’m such an over-achieving b*tch lol. Reading your article, not going to lie, definitely made me see that I need to be more positive of all things, and so I may adopt saying more affirmations as they’re little reminders that I am progressing in life. Thanks for the read, Mara!

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  2. emibeebooks says:

    I feel this so much. When I first graduated, I still worked my retail job, but I felt like a failure because everyone around me was getting picked up by employers, and even with 2 degrees, I wasn’t getting interviews. I finally got a career job 2 years after graduating. It’s not something I would have picked myself, but it’s very interesting and I get to learn more with it, so I’m very grateful for it. I think that expectation of “you need to get a job as soon as you’re out” is so much pressure that it just affects our lives negatively. As long as we do just like you said and don’t give up on ourselves, we’ll all get there. There’s no set timeline for life milestones anymore.

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    • The Musings of Mara says:

      Yes! There is so much pressure. I remember before I had a blog, I was in an uber on my way out for a night out after graduation and my uber driver literally asked me what I planned to do. Like sir, I just walked across the stage, give me a second and just say congrats, haha. I had wanted to make a post about it but I never did.

      I also agree with what you said about no set timeline. Everyone has their own journey. Thanks for reading this post and your comment!

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