Do’s & Don’ts Of Building Self-Confidence

The other day I was trying to generate ideas for posts for my blog (being in a creative funk is rough, I’ve talked about it before on my blog) and I asked my friend “what is something you’d like to know as a twentysomething?” She said “One thing that I think separates you from me is how confident you are, so maybe write tips on how you went about gaining that confidence.” This posed an interesting question because I definitely wasn’t always the confident person and I still struggle depending on the area of life that it is. However, I do think I have been alive long enough to give advice on how to gain a mostly* confident demeanor. That being said, here are some of my tips for building confidence.

DO Find Something You’re Really Good At and Be Proud of It

One way I built confidence in high school was by playing sports. Seeing how far I could push my body gave me an extreme level of confidence in an otherwise typical insecure teenage life. When I went to college and became an adult jr., I was always confident in the fact that I was now naturally an athletic person due to how I grew up playing sports. As I’ve grown into an actual adult and less in shape than my teenage athlete years, I’ve found a new confidence in doing dancing group fitness classes like MIXXEDFIT, Zumba, COMMIT, and others. When I’m in these classes I FEEL LIKE I’M THAT BITCH and nobody can stop me. While I personally love physical fitness as my thing, it doesn’t matter what your hobbies are just pick one thing that you can get really good at be proud of.

DON’T Base Your Confidence On What Other People Think of You

Having self-confidence in a rigid society that defines success in such a narrow way is hard. The truth of the matter is you can be the best looking, intelligent, physically fit, wealthy person and somebody is still going to have some shit to say about you, so don’t worry about what other people think of you. I think I was able to gain confidence when I stopped giving a shit what people think of me. The thing is most people, even the people who always have something to say, are concerned with themselves so they don’t really have to think about you as often as you believe. If you don’t thibk you’re the bomb.com, nobody else will either. Coco Chanel said it best, “I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t think about you at all.”

DO Speak Kindly To Yourself

Yes, I wish I had a flat stomach and had extra inches in my height but I am who I am! Talking badly about the things you “hate” about yourself will not boost your confidence. It’s okay to want to improve things in in your life (whether they be physical, mental, or whatever else) but calling yourself dumb won’t make you any smarter. Saying you hate your back rolls won’t make them disappear and complaining about yourself in general never makes you a better person. While venting is okay, it’s important to be mindful of the way you talk to and about yourself. A good rule of thumb is to not say anything to yourself that you would drop a friend or romantic partner for saying to you.

DON’T Compare Yourself To Others

Just as you could be the best looking, intelligent, physically fit, wealthy person, so can somebody else. The reality of life is that is always going to be somebody better than you at something. On the flip side, you will be better than others at certain things so there really is no need to compare yourself to anyone. I’m in the school of thought that we were all put on this Earth for our own purpose and comparing yourselves to others diminishes your ability to do what you are meant to do! On social media (where most comparisons for us millennials and Gen Z occur) people portray what they want you to see. Most people don’t show their full story, which is their right, so you can’t compare yourself to something that isn’t a true representation. So what if that person landed their dream job at 23. So what if they graduated with a 4.0. So what if they have the life you think you deserve. Everything ain’t for everybody and when you focus on comparing yourself to others you open the door for insecurities and jealously, which is the opposite of confidence! So don’t do it and just FOCUS on yourself. That’s how you become confident in who YOU are!

It’s hard to be 100% confident all the time and there are days when you won’t feel that great about yourself. The key to confidence is to remember no matter what your shortcomings may be, you are still AMAZING and uniquely made.

What’s one thing you’re great at and proud of? Do you have any tips for building self-confidence? Let me know in the comments!

 

3 Must-Have Apps For Your Health & Fitness Journey

I recently talked about how I restarted my health and fitness journey after two months of slacking off. Anyone who has ever fallen off of the fitness wagon knows that getting back on the fitness wagon is even harder the second or third or however many times around. Sometimes It’s even more frustrating because you know you’ve done it before…and you don’t know why this time is so much harder. However, throughout my many times falling on and off the fitness wagon, I’ve stumbled across some apps that are extremely helpful with health and fitness.

I don’t know about you but I’m on my phone most of the time (especially since COVID-19 came around). That being said, it’s always super important for me to make the most of my phone by having apps that help me accomplish my goals. I’ve tried many different fitness apps and I won’t talk about them ALL on this pos, but I will talk about my favorites!

Water Reminder – Daily Tracker

Staying hydrated is a key component of any health and fitness journey! I’m entirely too lazy to link you to any sources so just trust me on this one, okay? I know for me personally, drinking a lot of water throughout the day keeps me from snacking on junky-ish foods that may get in the way of my nutrition goals. I love this app because not only can you set reminders to drink water, but you can also set your own daily intake goals and track your water intake. It’s perfect because I have mine set to remind me every 30 mins and it allows me to at least get 90oz or more a day! We love to see it.

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MyFitnessPal

Nutrition is more important than working out when it comes to weight loss. As I mentioned last week, you can’t outwork a shitty diet. I personally like MFP because its database is huge due to the fact that many people use it to track their food. I also can usually scan a food that’s not on there and it will pop-up (not always, but most of the time). I especially like it because when I keep super serious on my weight loss journey I count macros and it tells you your macros, something other calorie trackers I’ve used don’t do. I do think you should avoid this one if you have a tendency to become obsessive with food.
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Strong Workout Tracker Gym Log

This is my favorite workout tracking app. It allows me to create my own routines and monitor my progress. When I’m not in a trainer specific program, this is what I use to create my own routines. I especially like it because it also has demonstrations for the workout moves in its database for those who are new to working out with weights or body weight movements. It also tracks how many workouts you do and your progress with weights/rep/etc. It’s a great app!

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Embarking on a health and fitness journey can be scary! This is why I think having apps that can help you out is super important. I’m glad I’ve found some that I like that help me so much. Hopefully they help you too!

Do you have any favorite health and fitness apps? Let me know in the comments!

A Few Ways To Deal With Being Overwhelmed

The last few weeks I’ve have been entirely overwhelmed with everything I needed to get done. A few weeks ago we had to grade the write-on competition and that pushed me back on other projects and work more than I thought it would. The following week after that I had a work assignment that also took way longer than I thought it would. I’m stressed because I had so many things I wanted to do like batch all of my Instagram photos and captions, record some episodes for my podcast, and write more than one or two blog posts at a time for this consistency challenge and I haven’t really done any of those things. This caused me to feel disappointed in myself.

On Monday I became even more overwhelmed because we had to register for classes (which I talked about here) and it hit me that I would be spending ANOTHER semester of law school on Zoom or WebEx or whatever my professors decide to use. I remembered how stressful this past semester was and started crying. I then realized that I had been feeling overwhelmed for a long time and me crying was just a cumulation of all that stress. All of those feelings inspired this post.

I deal with overwhelm by taking time for myself.

Whatever that looks like for what I’m going through at the time. The last few days I have been sleeping A LOT and making sure that I stick to my workout schedule (I’ve closed my apple rings EVERY DAY this month y’all). I feel like sticking to my workout schedule has been very important for my wellness this month because when I feel like I’m dropping the ball on my blog, instagram, or podcast…it makes me feel proud of myself that I’m sticking to my goal of closing my rings on my apple watch and working out every day. Keeping promises to yourself is important when you feel like you aren’t doing anything right. Find someway that you can take time for yourself and keep that promise to yourself.

I deal with overwhelm by making to-do lists and then organizing them by importance.

I know, writing a to-do lists may sound counterproductive when you’re dealing with being overwhelmed but sometimes it helps me just to write everything down and see it in front of me. Sometimes feeling overwhelm is just a result of me feeling* like I have a lot to do in a short amount time but really I have more time than I realize to do it. Writing things down and and then prioritizing them allows me to feel more in control of how I spend my time, which helps me not feel as overwhelmed.

I deal with overwhelm by giving myself grace.

Period. Speaking for myself, a lot of my overwhelm comes from self-imposed requirements. If I’m able to give myself grace and talk to myself kindly, some of my overwhelm goes away. Sometimes I have to remind myself that every day I can only strive to do my best and nothing else.

We are living in stressful times and it’s easy to get overwhelmed. I wrote this post off the top of my head so hopefully it’s useful for you. Have a great Wednesday and rest of your week! Follow me on Instagram here for more tips on wellness.

How I Choose My Law School Classes

It’s here! It’s finally happening! I’m in my LAST year of law school. Sometimes (actually most times) I still can’t believe it. I remember my first day of law school as if it were yesterday. I actually look at the selfie I took that day to admire how far I’ve come since that day. Not only have I accomplished different goals I set out to accomplish over the years, but my overall confidence in being a law student has grown as well. It’s actually been amazing for me to witness and experience.

One exciting part of law school (for me) is picking my classes. This was the first year that I was confident I was going to get every class that I wanted and not have to be on a waitlist or pick a different class. I’m happy to report that this was true and I got every class that I wanted. This upcoming semester my class schedule will be as follows:

  • Criminal Procedure – Adjudication
  • Civil Rights
  • Advanced Legal Analysis and Writing: Making Law, Writing, & Interpreting Legislation
  • Family Law

I’m super excited as I know all of these classes will be extremely beneficial to my legal education and I’ve interested in majority of the topics. There are many debates about whether or not to take bar classes in your 3L year and while I’ve taken most of the Bar Classes already, I still had a few I could have taken this semester. I chose against it, although sometimes Family Law is on the bar. I decided to write this blog to tell law students how I choose what law school classes I want to take and the different questions I ask myself that go into those decisions.

Do you want to take all bar classes, no bar classes, or a healthy in between?

This one is pretty self-explanatory. If you want to take mostly bar classes than it will be easier for you to decide which classes you want to take as your options will be limited. At my school we are only required to take certain bar classes (Torts, Contracts, Civil Procedure, Legal Writing I, II, II, Property, Criminal Law, Constitutional Law I & II). The rest of the bar classes are offered as electives so we pretty much have free reign. There are pros and cons to taking non-graduation requirement bar classes. One pro to taking a bar class in law school is that you will be familiar with the topic as opposed to seeing it for the first time when you start bar prep two or three months before the bar exam. On the flip side, bar classes can oftentimes be harder than non-bar classes and if you want to raise your GPA, bar classes might not be your best way to do so. As a 2L I took a healthy mix of bar classes and classes that I was interested in and I did pretty well.

What type of law are you interested in or maybe want to learn more about?

I think it very important to not only take classes that may be on the bar but also to take classes that interest you (if they aren’t also bar classes, which they can be). This was very important to me because I came into law school with tunnel vision about practicing Criminal Law. I wanted to make sure to take other law classes not necessarily related to criminal law but still something I was interested in like Resort Hotel Casino Law and Education Reform. Taking these classes allowed me to see if I would ever be open to practicing a different type of law or if it was strictly Criminal Law for me. If you relate to my tunnel vision, I would recommend trying different types of classes.

Which professors have you enjoyed taken classes with in the past and what’s the word around the law school about the others?

Listen! When it comes to law school classes, the professors can often make or break the class. Law school is hard enough without having to deal with difficult professors or professors who mean well but their teaching style just doesn’t suit your learning style. I always try to take classes with professors who I have before because I know what to expect and have grown accustomed to how they teach. This is very important since most law school grades are based off of one exam that the professor is teaching you for.

These are just some of the questions to ask yourself when taking classes as a 3L. Choosing classes is very important in law school and you don’t want to just choose whatever. Make sure you sit and think about it for a good minute before registration day. I may write a post similar to this before the spring semester to help 1Ls choose their elective class. Let me know if that would be helpful.

How do you decide what classes to take? What’s more important: the professors, the time, the subject, or something else? Let me know in the comments.

Things I Wish I Knew When I Started Blogging

I started my blog back in 2016 after I graduated college. That was almost 4 years ago! Ever since I started blogging, many of my friends have come to me for advice about starting their own blog. I love this because it means they notice that I’m doing things and as a blogger, recognition is good. However, having to give advice over Snapchat or Instagram, or whatever message platform is hard and much more time consuming than I have time for so I decided to write this post so that I can send it to those who ask me for tips about blogging.

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  • Put aside a few consecutive hours a week to focus on blog related things. (Really focus!)

Honestly, if you can master this and make it a habit, the rest of these things will come pretty easily to you. My biggest struggle over the last year and half or so has been finding the time to just sit down and work on my blog for extended periods of time, without distractions. I read a post from Mattie James (mattiejames.com) that discusses the concept of batch work. Batch work is basically creating a bunch of content all at once. My effectiveness in this comes and goes but as of lately it’s been something I am aiming to make routine.

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  • Figure out your main topics/focus aka niche (Keep this list small)

When I first started blogging I wanted to talk about everything under the sun: health and fitness, pop culture, social justice issues, self-growth and development, mental health, anything and everything. It wasn’t until after I tried writing about all of these topics and realized that I was headed nowhere fast that I decide to dial back on the topics I was going to focus on for my blog. Now I focus on self-reflection, self-growth/self-development, and goal-setting with a sprinkle of health and fitness and travel thrown in every so often. Keeping your list of topics small is key to avoiding being overwhelmed as a blogger. Even the person who loves writing more than life CAN’T write about everything. I know that once I establish myself as a blogger with a brand, other opportunities to talk about my various interests will present themselves.

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  • Consistently creating content (and posting it) is the hardest thing to master.

It’s so funny because whenever people ask me what advice I have about blogging I tell them “don’t underestimate how hard it is to consistently write and create content.” Many of the time they tell me they’re not worried about that because they have so many things to write about that creating content won’t be hard for them. Fast forward a few weeks later and either 1. They haven’t started their blog because they’re busy or 2. They have started it but only post once in a blue moon (like myself, guilty as charged haha). The thing people don’t understand is that writing a blog post isn’t hard (per say) but what is hard is writing a blog post worth reading. There have been many times I have written a post, read it back, tried to edit it, and just realized it wasn’t even worth reading for me, much less to put out. Creating consistent and worthy content is hard. Don’t underestimate it.

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  • Friends =/= Supporters and that’s okay! (Don’t take it personal)

Just because you are friends with someone does not mean they are obligated to support your blog. I know. That sounds insane. Why wouldn’t your friends support you? They’re your friends! That’s what friends do for each other. I know that’s what we’re taught to believe but the fact of the matter is that friends =/= supporters and that doesn’t make them bad people. Maybe your niche is just not FOR THEM. When I first started blogging I was sad that all of my friends weren’t reading my blog (the clicks don’t lie!) but then I realized that doesn’t matter. I love all of my friends and our differences in interests and hobbies. That being said if one of my friends started a horseback riding podcast I can’t necessarily say I would be tuning in every week to hear about life at the stables. I probably would retweet all of their new episodes but that’s as far as that would go. That doesn’t make me a bad person. Some people won’t even retweet you, and that’s fine too. We are all inclined to support things that interest us. I know my content isn’t for everybody, I focus on writing for the people who it’s intended for.

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  • Reading other bloggers, watching blogging webinars, and whatever else is useless if you don’t apply the knowledge! (Seriously, don’t waste your time)

I tried to read every blog post and watch every webinar I could about blogging when I first started. There where countless Google searches for content about blogging from my phone and laptop. If it was free, it was for me! After reading and watching all of this stuff I can say I have maybe applied 1 or 2 things out of the 25 I’ve learned. That’s because I was more focused on indulging in information to try to imitate the greats instead of reading/learning some and then applying it, reading/learning something else and applying, and so on and so on. I’m sure I would have gotten way farther in a quicker time if I took it one step at time. This whole blogger life is a learning process though and Mara went through it so you don’t have to!

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  • This shit is not cheap/free (If you want to be next level)

Okay so I never knew that I was going to have to spend so much money JUST to make blog appear legit. Between having my own domain, needing a PO Box for my newsletter, paying for stock photos, and eventually attending blogging conventions, this blogging life gets REAL costly REAL quick! If blogging is just a hobby for you it’s not something you have to worry about but I eventually want to take my blog to another level as a source of income like many of the women I admire. If you have similar ambitions as me, it’s going to cost you before it pays you. Don’t get discouraged and make sure you can finance your dreams.

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  • Engagement is a major key.

Okay so something I’ve recently learned is blogging doesn’t stop at the blog posts. In order to have people actually give a damn about what you have to say, you have to engage with your social media followers. I know that is so obvious…how didn’t realize it before? I don’t know, honestly. Even after reading it from many people who blog it never clicked until recently.

This is just a little bit of what I wish I knew when I started blogging. Even with utilizing these tips there are still so many things left for bloggers to learn. The best thing is to do your research!

If you are fellow blogger or have a podcast/website, I wish you luck and success! It’s not an easy task to be successful on these e-streets.

Are you a blogger? What is one thing you wish you knew when you started blogging? Let me know in the comments! 

3 Tips for Balancing Your Busy Life

One question I get asked pretty often as someone who has many different hobbies and commitments is how do I manage to balance it all? Between law school, work, fitness, this blog, my podcast, and everything else, I’m definitely someone who knows how to keep busy. The truth is that is when I’m at my best! If I’m given too much free-time I will literally get nothing done. Isn’t that ironic? Due to the fact that balancing a busy life is such a big part my brand and content that I create, I decided to write a post about the way I am able to achieve a balanced life when I’m busy as hell.

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Get Clear on Your Priorities and Dedicate Your Time Accordingly

You can’t achieve balance if you aren’t crystal clear on exactly what it is you’re prioritizing. Once you know what your priorities are, you will have an idea of where most of your time should be going and how much time to dedicate to less important things. One way I get clear on my priorities is when I set goals as if anything is possible. By setting goals, you understand what it is you truly desire. This allows you to move forward in prioritizing your time and balancing your many aspirations. Having regular goal setting sessions is super important. I recently wrote a guide to completing a mid-year goal setting session. You can find that post here.

Be Realistic

I’m not sure about your reader but when I was in high school I learned about something called SMART goals. The R is smart goals stands for realistic and I feel that this is such an important part of goal setting and achieving balance between all aspects of our lives. While I do believe that we can do all we set our minds to, we also need to be semi-realistic when striving for balance in our work/school life. For example: if I want to achieve a school/life balance, I cannot set goals that would take much more time and dedication to achieve. For example: if I’m trying to make sure my grades are at least average or slightly above average (shout out to the law school curve), I can’t make one of my goals to be a nationally recognized body builder in the next 3 months who also goes out every weekend. Getting good grades takes many many hours of studying, being a Nationally ranked body builder takes many many hours of training and hyper focusing on nutrition, and going out every weekend takes energy and uses time that could be used for studying or bodybuilding. All three of these goals can be achieved in a lifetime but in 3 months (based on my experience in law school only since I’ve never been a bodybuilder much less a national recognized one) they are almost impossible to achieve all at the same time.

Use Your Planner

My planner is one of the most important tools I have for keeping achieving balanced in my life. I personally like the write things done because the power of writing things down has been long documented. Anyone who knows me or has been reading my blog for a while knows that I live for my passion planner. However, for my friends who do not love the paper planner life, I also live for my google calendar (simply for the fact that it’s easier to edit when things come up and I have to make last minute changes). If you’re not a big paper planner person, you can also use Google Calendar. I like to use Google Calendar to time block when things are really important.

Being a busy bee can be stressful but that doesn’t mean you can’t live a balanced life. If you’re clear on your priorities, are realistic with what you can accomplish, and use some sort of planning system, you can do what you need to do to handle your business.

Did you find any of these tips helpful? Which one(s) do you plan on using in your life moving forward? Are there any other tips you have for maintaining work/school life balance? Leave a comment below!

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My Favorite Healthy-ish Snacks

One of my biggest struggles when losing weight has always been the fact that I love to snack. Snacking isn’t always the problem but snacking on junk food too often definitely doesn’t make for a successful health & fitness journey. One thing I noticed once I started law school back in 2018 was that I am definitely a stress eater. In the last few months I’ve been super stressed and thus my snack attacks have gotten worse. I recently started a new fitness program (which I will blog about more later) and I knew if I wanted to make sure that I didn’t waste my money and was successful, I needed to start eating as healthy as I have in the past. This fact combined with one of my sorority sisters who follows me on Instagram (shoutout to Vanessa!) asking me to blog about my favorite healthy snacks led to me writing this post.

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Anyone who knows anything about health & fitness and losing weight will tell you that nutrition is the most important factors in making sure you lose weight. To quote my newest trainer (@makingmila on Instagram) you can’t out work a bad diet. At the same time, there is something about overly healthy foods that I have to train my taste buds to get used to again every time I fall off the health wagon. However, these foods have always been some of my favorites and have the perfect combination of healthy-ish* and tasty. Full Disclaimer: I am not a nutritionist/dietitian/anything of the sort. I’m just a fat girl tryna get fit that loves to snack. Okay, keep reading for the list!

Protein Shakes

Gone are the days when protein shakes tastes like chalk. Nowadays it is pretty easy to find a yummy protein shakes or put one together yourself.  My personal favorites are Premier Protein Shakes. They are great for when I’m on the go. My favorite one is the caramel flavored one. Getting enough protein is an important part of staying full and not snacking too much. I also like making my own and customizing them.

Rice Cake, Almond Butter, & Honey

This is one of my favorite snacks ever. It usually is especially helpful when I’m hungry before a workout and need a quick bite but don’t want to get too full so that I have to wait a super long time to workout. This also goes really well with coffee, which I sometimes drink a little of if I’m not in the mood for a pre-workout drink but need a tiny pick me up.

Non-fat Greek Yogurt with Granola & Seeds

Whenever I crave something crunchy this is my go-to snack. Make sure you read the labels on both your granola and seeds so that you follow the proper portion sizes and don’t overdo it. Granola can often be a sugar bomb so try to stick to the ones that don’t have too many grams of sugar or at least have natural sugars. If you want some sweetness, add some honey!

Peppers & Hummus

This was my go-to snack in undergrad when I was doing 21 Day Fix. I used to eat them almost every day and never got sick of them. There are so many different flavors of hummus at many grocery stores now so you can switch it up if you get bored of it. I remember when I first started my health and fitness journey I even followed a hummus meme page! That’s how much I loved the stuff!

Instead of trying to give myself a super strict and limiting rule like “no snacking”, I switch out my junk food snacks with healthier snacks that sometimes satisfy the same craving. This helps me rework snacking into a way that fits in with my health & fitness journey that is sustainable.

Leave a comment with your favorite healthy or healthy-ish snack(s)? I can always use more recommendations.

5 Free Ways To Practice Self-Care & Cope w/ Covid-19

The last few months have been some of the most stressful months in my entire life. I wouldn’t wish being in law school during a pandemic on my worst enemy. Once the semester ended things became a little less stressful but the stress was still there. I’m sure I’m not the only one feeling this way. All of my friends in different industries and grad-programs are equally as stressed as I am or more depending on their circumstances. We are all truly trying our best to survive and hold onto our sense of well-being.

When the stay-at-home-orders first started, one of the ways I coped with it was by engaging in retail therapy. I bought myself a ring-light (don’t regret it) and many other things to keep myself pre-occupied when I didn’t have other responsibilities. Many other things I used to do for self-care like strolling aimlessly in Trader Joe’s or going to the sauna at my local gym were no longer options. Going to the grocery store became this super intense experience and the gyms rightfully shut down and even though they are open now I’m still not comfortable to go back to them. This led to my mental health suffering and began a horrible cycle of me neglecting myself and feeling sad and then neglecting myself and you get it.

Self-care has become a way of life in recent years and could even be considered to be trendy. However, when people think of self-care they often think of getting a mani-pedi or a massage or whatever other parts of our beauty regimen we can think of that make us feel good. Unless you are super talented, those things can have quite a price tag and although some salons are opening back up, I don’t want to risk it. Aside from that, self-care does not have to be related to beauty. Self-care doesn’t even have to cost money. Some of the best things I can do to take care of myself (mindbodyspirit) are completely FREE! Well, some of them require you to pay your phone bill or have someone paying your phone bill but I assume that you were already going to do that. I was asked to share some ways to cope with covid and I’ve shared these tips before at some point but I feel they are especially timely now.

Go Outside and Ground Yourself

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So the art of grounding yourself can be defined differently by everyone but for the sake of this blog I’m talking about grounding myself with the earth. The most effective way to do this for me is by standing barefoot in sand (or grass now that I don’t live in San Diego and close to the beach) and doing breathing exercises. It’s kind of like meditating while you are standing up. I love to ground myself because it reminds me that I’m part of something much bigger than myself and shifts my perspective on everything, even my problems.

 

Turn Off Your Phone For A Day (or a few hours)

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As a blogger and a millennial I will say that one stereotype that I often fall into is that I’m always on my phone. As a matter of fact, I’m usually on my phone majority of the time I’m awake unless I’m at work. Lately I’ve been practicing leaving my phone in another room and just being content with sitting and doing nothing or reading a book in silence. Taking a break from technology is a good way to take care of ourselves.

Clean and Declutter Your Space(s)

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Okay so I don’t know about you all but as I’ve grown over the years I realize that if my space is a mess, it’s usually a reflection of my life at the time. Whether it’s my room, desk at work, kitchen, or whatever else if there is mess and clutter there simply cleaning it up can be a great morale booster and one of the best-practices of self-care (if you’re not the type to get stressed out by cleaning).

Listen To Nature Sounds

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Ever since I was a baby the sound of water has always made me feel at peace. My mom used to have to run the tub or faucet just to get me to fall asleep. As a former San Diego resident one of my favorite things to do used to be just going out to the beach and night and listening to the ocean waves. If you can do this in person it is awesome but there are also videos on YouTube that have these sounds as well. My personal favorite thing is this app I downloaded called Tide. It has recordings of different sounds of nature from forests to my personal favorite, rain, and other things in between. When I listen to these I almost instantly feel better and more at peace and relaxed.

Get a Good Night’s Sleep (and make it a habit)
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Honestly, this is something I struggle with. I should always be doing this but life sometimes gets hectic and nights with only 4 or 5 hours of sleep happen. If this is the life that you also live, find a way to get a few nights of good rest. There are few things better than waking up from an ample amount of sleep. Making sure you are well rested is one of the best ways to take care of yourself, your body, and your mind. If this is not possible I also encourage naps. In college even a 15 minute power nap had a drastic effect on my day.

While charcoal masks, online shopping, and eating at your favorite restaurant can be good ways to practice self-care, they aren’t always free and/or feasible, especially during these times. All of these tips can be utilized at any point during your day. I hope that you are able to practice these free self-care tips and they transform your physical and mental well-being and make dealing with Covid-19 a little bit easier.

What do you do when you need to practice self-care but you have to spend your money elsewhere? How are you coping with Covid-19? Let me know in the comments!

 

Unconventional Tips for the LSAT (and Affirmations)

Ah, the LSAT. Every aspiring law student’s worst nightmare. Well, at least it was my worst nightmare at the time. I can remember studying for the LSAT like it was yesterday. I was super stressed out and kept scoring a lower score than I wanted to when I took practice tests. I also wasn’t scoring what I needed to get into the school I wanted to go to. My undergrad GPA was decent but definitely not one of the GPAs that make the LSAT less of a big deal. I had spent over $1,000 on my LSAT prep course (I needed a course because I was not self-disciplined enough to study on my own free-will as a recovering busybody who studied when I had time to…not because I chose to). The LSAT I had decided to take was the last possibly one I could take before deadlines for admission materials were due so it was either do well on this one or put off law school for another year (which in retrospect wouldn’t have been sooo horrible but at the time it sounded like the end of the world since I had already taken 2 years off after undergrad).

During my 2-year gap between undergrad and law school, one thing I had really gotten into was the Law of Attraction and all of its subparts like visualization, positive thinking, and affirmations (which I have written about before). I knew that I truly could manifest anything that I wanted if I really believed it, released it, and did the work to make it happen without worrying about. It was the final week before the LSAT and I realized I hadn’t written any affirmations for the test. I had written affirmations for every other life event that I had going on prior to this so it didn’t make sense that I hadn’t made any for the LSAT. They really helped me and have helped other people that I’ve shared them with. I decided to write this blog post with the LSAT affirmations I created for those taking the upcoming July LSAT this Saturday. Read them below!

 

I enjoy the subjects I am studying

I easily understand and retain what I study

I study hard and regularly

I am always relaxed during exams.

During the exams, I recall information quickly and easily.
My memory is sharp.

I pass exams easily.

Reading Comprehension comes naturally to me.

Logic Games are fun and I enjoy the challenge.

I always know the correct answers for Logical Reasoning questions.

I am prepared for the LSAT.

I will conquer the LSAT.

I will get into Law School.

I will be an attorney.

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Hopefully these affirmations give you some last-minute confidence for the LSAT. I have two other tips that helped me get the score I wanted. Of course, I didn’t take my LSAT during a global pandemic so my experience was completely different, but these aren’t reliant on us not experiencing a pandemic so it doesn’t hurt to give them a try.

The first tip is to chant the score you want out loud after you finish practicing for the day (I know it sounds crazy but hear me out). My entire time studying for the LSAT the highest score I got was a 155, which isn’t horrible…but I wanted a 160 to ensure I would get into the school I wanted to (a 160 was higher than their average). I chanted it after every practice tests and practice section I would do. Even though I never scored a 160 on any of my practice tests, I knew I was destined to get a 160. I would chant it and visualize it and guess what? I scored a 160 and in the 80th percentile for that testing period.

The next tip is to make a LSAT day playlist to pump you up on test day! Make sure it’s super uplifting and matches the vibe you want to go into test day with. On my LSAT playlist I had different songs like Bodak Yellow – Cardi B, FORMATION – Beyoncé, CRZY – Kehlani, Blessings – Big Sean ft. Drake, DNA. – Kendrick Lamar, and Know Yourself – Drake. Formation and Bodak Yellow definitely had me feeling like a bad b*tch walking into the testing center, even if I was nervous. Put whatever songs make you feel like you can handle anything thrown your way.

The LSAT is just one of many tests you will take in your upcoming legal career. It seems scary now but you will look back at it once you’re in law school and not feel the sense of terror that you may be feeling now. Keep studying, say your affirmations, and remember YOU GOT THIS!

Share this post with any other aspiring law students you know who are taking the LSAT this year.

 

Why I’m Doing The #ConsistencyChallenge

Hello readers! I know what you’re thinking, “Isn’t it Monday? Do my eyes deceive me? Why is Mara posting a new blog post?” Yes, it is Monday! HAPPY MONDAY. No, your eyes aren’t deceiving you, this post is real. I’m posting on a Monday (straying from my typical Thursday posts) because THIS month I am taking part in Mattie James’ #ConsistencyChallenge. This last part may have added more confusion so let me tell you what I’m talking about.

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Back in May, Mattie James, one of the first influencer/bloggers I ever followed, hosted a #ConsistencyChallenge on Instagram. For that challenge we had to post on our Instagram feeds every day for the entirety of the month of May. We didn’t just do this to improve our analytics (which did happen) but we also had the chance of winning $1,000 prize. That was exciting but I was more interested in proving to myself that I could do it. When it comes to my various projects (Instagram, podcast, etc), I always struggled back and forth with consistency. Now I’ve learned how to plan out my feed and stay consistent on the gram.

Okay so you’re probably wondering “what does that have to do with you posting on your blog on a Monday?” Well, this month’s Mattie challenged us to post a new blog posts, EVERY DAY, Monday-Friday. I’m not even going to lie to y’all, I almost backed out. I’m still wondering how I’m going to create a new blog post for every weekday. However, similarly to the Instagram feed challenge, I need to prove to myself that I’m capable of doing this because I AM. It will also help me get better at blogging, something I’m always striving to do.

Here are the rules for the challenge, so you can all know what to expect from me.

During the challenge you must:

  • Blog once a day – Monday through Friday only
  • Monday, July 6 thru Friday, July 31 (20 days total!)
  • Posts should be at least 150 words long and include at least one photo/visual
  • Submit your favorite blog post you wrote of the week in the Facebook group every Friday am (there will be a dedicated thread for post submissions)

(Read Mattie’s entire blog post about the challenge here)

That’s what I’ve got going on this month. I’m super nervous but also excited to see what I accomplish. Wish me luck!

Leave a comment with a blog post you’d like to see from me this month. If it’s selected I’ll shout you out on the post.